The C word

 Today we're taking you back. For some of us, waaaay back. 

When you were in school, you aced a quiz and got an A. Succeeding and learning.

And you did it again and again, succeeding by winning by succeeding.

That's how most of us were taught.

But then when you go out in the real world, even today, and try new things or start your own business, you often have to learn by failing.

Imagine instead we're back in school and this time every grade you get is an F. And you get celebrated for the F. For practicing the work! And you succeed with that.

Your F means you’re learning. You’re trying. You’re practicing.

That's something that requires a lot of self-confidence. 

Think about it.

If back in the day you got an F in school, you would likely make it mean something about you (like most students do), and when you do that for a while, when those F's or even B's pile up, you start believing you aren’t smart and that you can’t do it.

But what if all those fails just meant you’re learning, you just don’t understand it yet, you need to try something different and shift.

Like a baby learning to walk, we can’t hit our stride without falling and learning how to get back up. Over and over and over again.

Self-confidence is the essential ingredient we need when we’re out in the world trying to accomplish something new. Something bigger, bolder, different. 

The difference between confidence and self-confidence?

For confidence, you look to your past, your experience, and your ability level to know that you can do something. You lean on evidence from your past.

Self confidence is internal - it’s based on your opinion of yourself and your ability to believe in yourself without any experience of the thing you’re about to do.  You’ve got you. Evidence or no evidence.

And that’s why self-confidence is the emotion of growth. That emotion that propels you into an incredible life.

It’s about you showing up for yourself differently so that you can show up for everyone around you differently. And take up the space in the world you deserve.

We put our heads together and made you a mini lesson allllllll about self-confidence. We’ll send it your way next week. 

Until then let's celebrate some F's.

XO Kelle and Nina

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