We know where our lives need attention.

We know what we’ve been avoiding.

We know where we need to kick-our-own-asses and invest.

The timing is never going to be perfect but we can create our reality any time -- we just need to take action.

What are you telling yourself to believe otherwise? To make you feel helpless and stuck?

Let’s check in here. 

Check out our new video, Three Big Little Lies. In the video you’ll learn: 

What Three Big Little Lies are you telling yourself to keep you stuck? And, what are the Three Simple Truths you need to know to get unstuck?

We’ll clear a few things up, like:

What really is the problem? You should be happy... 

Are you living life according to your own hopes, dreams and expectations or someone else's? 

Do you keep putting yourself off until later? Like later is something that's guaranteed?

Is this the life you want to be living three, five or ten years from now? 

How about a thought...

Maybe we’ll see life return to ‘normal’ this year, and maybe not.

Maybe the economy will take a turn for the better, and maybe not.

Maybe your kids will play sports again, and maybe not.

Maybe our world will be a safer, more positive place than last year, and maybe not.

But we have good news for you.

None of those things will dictate what sort of year you have.

Seriously.

None of them.

You will create your reality just as you’ve always done. 

Wait a sec, Kelle and Nina, are you saying I can get in the driver’s seat right now? Amidst all of the uncertainty, stress, anxiety and question marks? I have so much on my plate!

Yes. You. Can. 

What are you telling yourself to believe otherwise? To make you feel helpless and stuck?

Let’s check in here. 

Check out our new video, The Three Big Little Lies. In the video you’ll learn: 

What Three Big Little Lies are you telling yourself to keep you stuck? And, what are the...

Moms run the freaking world. If it wasn’t for us, our people wouldn’t get fed, they wouldn’t have anything to wear, and really they wouldn’t have a life at all.

When I decided to become a mom, I knew I wanted to nurture my children, care for them, and love them like crazy.

But somehow I also became the person that did all the cooking, and most of the cleaning, and like everything. Everyf’ingthing.

I was doing everything. And doing everything including doing all the things you don’t want to do sucks.  I wasn’t feeling the way I wanted to feel and the truth is, I wasn’t doing any of it well. I was angry, frustrated, and resentful. Sounds fun, right?

Here’s what I realized. I was the one choosing to do it all. I was making the choice that it had to be done and I was the one who had to do it.

So I made another choice.

I made the choice to choose me. I made the decision that I was no longer willing to sacrifice my...

Well, it's been one hell of a summer and it's not over yet.  And a lot of the women we're talking with are feeling it. We get it.

As women and moms, when we consider our own needs and try to make room for ourselves, we often feel guilty.

We feel guilty about spending time away from our kids, we feel guilty about spending money on ourselves, we feel guilty that we should be more productive. No matter what we do and how we choose to spend time, our guilt creeps in.

In fact, as I’m writing this, my son is playing by himself. You bet I feel guilty I’m not spending time with him.

But if I spend time with him, then I’ll feel guilty that I’m not getting my work done. No matter what I choose to do, I’m going to feel guilty.

And then that guilt turns into resentment or anger or sadness. 

Guilt shows up no matter what. And if we allow that guilt to take over, this is where we get stuck. We stop taking action and we stay where we...

The other day while I was outside with my kids, they got on their bikes and started riding around in circles.

After a few minutes, they stopped to save a fuzzy caterpillar undulating across the trail, watching and nudging it along. Then they got back on to ride around again.

They weren’t trying to get somewhere, or burn calories, or master a skill. They were just playing and experiencing life as it was happening.

Children are masters at this. 

Then at some point, usually around age 10 but sometimes earlier, we become aware of and care about what other people think. We try to live by others expectations, we conform to who society is telling us we should be.

And play starts to take a back seat to being responsible. Just saying that word, responsible makes my shoulders and neck tense up.

Sadly, by 23 as a society we nearly stop playing altogether because it’s time to get to work.

Stuart Brown of the National Institute for Play (this actually exists! It’s a...

This week I realized finish lines just can't exist right now. Remote learning will extend through the end of the school year, which means I’m a first and third grade teacher for another six weeks - on top of my existing work/life/mental/emotional load. If I’m being honest, it would be more disruptive to send everyone back to school at this point but the anxiety and overwhelm felt REAL. Expectations and finish lines aren’t reliable as reality shifts daily. This is hard. But this is when we need to surf the waves these turbulent times bring - we can’t control them. Let go of expectations, things aren’t supposed to look a certain way right now. I realize how much I gain by giving myself permission to let go. One day at a time.

We’ve talked with at least five clients this week who’ve experienced their first bout of true anxiety -  a handful have even experienced anxiety attacks. On any given ‘normal’ day, one in...

Am I the only one feeling ungrounded right now?

When I wake up in the morning, I don’t even know where to start.

Reaching for the news doesn’t serve me.

Getting ahead on work is fruitless. 

My meditations are unfocused (I’d go so far as to say “sloppy” but then there I am judging my meditations - which is counterintuitive).

Those home school schedules circulating on social media are making me feel more untethered, like if I can’t tick these boxes I’m no longer worthy of Pinterest (I’m just going to deactivate my account). I’m mindlessly doing for the sake of getting things done. Not a lot of meaning there. 

I’m like a mom zombie. Wandering through the day. Is it already four o’clock? 

It’s hard to trust our intuition right now with so much anxiety and uncertainty swirling around us. It’s easy to fall into autopilot or let someone else drive. And that’s ok for a minute, but not for the...

We asked the moms in our private facebook group a few weeks ago: “If you had an extra hour in your day, what would you do with it?”

There was a time when if I found an extra hour in my day, I had no idea what I’d do with it. 

I was so used to getting things DONE, there was always something to DO. 

I kind of let go of my own stuff. My own wants and dreams and loves. Was I even allowed to need, want, dream or love? Should I? Was there really time or space for me, the mom? 

What would I savor if given one full hour?

My family, work and life admin took up most of my mental bandwidth - and I fell into a rhythm that worked. Low grade everyday stress was fine. I was fine. But what was I savoring? What lit me up? 

Wait, was I bored? 

In the interest of giving my all to everything and everyone else in my life I realized I’d closed down my connections to my own senses. I’d tuned out the world. 

I wanted to show up for my life, to...

“If you miss the look in your child’s eye one day, you’ve missed it. If you miss the look in your lover’s eyes the next day, you’ve missed that. If you miss the beauty of sitting under the trees, you’ve missed that too. If you add that up over many moments and then many days and years, you may wind up missing the most beautiful aspects of your own life. Who tells oneself they don’t have any time? When really, all you’ve got is time, all you’ve got is this moment.”  

 –John Kabat-Zinn

Mindfulness 101

Stop. Look. Listen. Feel. 

We’ve all had those moments of: I’m here but I’m not here (on your phone at the little league game? Lap glowing at the stoplight?) Before we go any further, we’ve got to start practicing being just a little bit more mindful. We benefit in crucial ways.

Simply put, mindfulness is a way to break free from being on autopilot. By paying attention to...